A Day With Flair
For a 2nd time after May 14 (click here for the blog entry from that day), I had the pleasure of not only visiting my longest (in years) friend Irma again but also doing some shopping at her lovely little boutique. It’s not often anymore that I come to my hometown of Aachen, but for this special occasion – the 1st birthday of Flair Modesalöngchen – it was no question to pay her a visit… and of course to leave with some cool stuff, as usual.
When you’re into fancy clothes (she carries them from S to XXL!) and accessories for outstandingly great and affordable prices, don’t hesitate! It’s all worth it. See? I even drove 1+ hour today 😉
Before going there, I visited two other places… the gravesite of my Dad, who passed away on April 21, 2015, and the gavesite of my Mom, who passed away on June 6, 1994.Both are buried on different cemeteries, about 20 minutes apart by car.
When my Dad was still alive, he was the one who took care of my Mom’s gravesite. I didn’t visit so often. Not because I don’t care about my Mom anymore. I do so VERY much. Still.
For 22 years, not a single day has passed where I haven’t thought about her. I’m just not a person who needs to visit a gravesite regularly, to mourn and to think about someone. My Mom is with me, inside of my heart, every single moment of my life. The site of a grave is just that. The site of a grave. It’s not where I picture that my Mom is.
And for one and a half years, this now also counts for my Dad. He remarried a while ago, but I haven’t seen his wife since the funeral last year. Unlike my Mom, his gravesite is a lot smaller since he was cremated. There’s nothing to ‘maintain’. However, now that he’s no more, it’s me who has to take care of my Mom’s. Which is a bit tricky since I live almost 1.5 hrs away by car. Thank God I have relatives to look after it every now and then.
Today was the time, to visit both gravesites again since I was in the area.
But as I said… those sites are not where I mourn and think about them.